If I was ever in a position similar to Dennis Lindsey's and something similar was said about me, I would hope I would respond like this: "I categorically deny this allegation. However, Mr. Millsap seems to feel that I had meant some disrespect in that meeting. If so, I apologize as that was not my intention. I would like to discuss this with him at some point, but in the meantime will fully participate with any investigations necessary. I would hope that if any others with whom I have interacted have felt disrespected by something I have said or done that they will approach me to discuss it. I would be willing to learn from any mistakes I have previously made so that they will not continue in the future."
People who are humble and willing to learn generally get through these incidents much better than others. Elijah felt something that still bothers him, and he obviously felt that this was the moment to bring it up when there is more sympathy toward black viewpoints than at other times in the past. As a white person, it can be difficult to understand the nuances. But I try to take people at their word until proven otherwise. And I feel that both of them believe what they say is true, but that they are coming from different worlds and understandings of what the other may be saying.
People who are humble and willing to learn generally get through these incidents much better than others. Elijah felt something that still bothers him, and he obviously felt that this was the moment to bring it up when there is more sympathy toward black viewpoints than at other times in the past. As a white person, it can be difficult to understand the nuances. But I try to take people at their word until proven otherwise. And I feel that both of them believe what they say is true, but that they are coming from different worlds and understandings of what the other may be saying.
