As an ex-mormon who was once married in the temple, grew up in Utah County and served a full-time mission, I wonder what your experience is with mormon tithing and how they are aggressive. I was taught to pay tithing and why I should. I was never asked to pay tithing, aggressively sought after to pay tithing, had anyone knock on my door to collect fast offerings (I did that as a kid) or had my leaders make me feel bad about it. During my interviews, I would always say I wasn't a full tithe player and rarely paid. My leaders always had responses of love, understanding and maybe challenged to seek out the blessings of paying tithing. They never once made me feel guilty about it.
The church has a ton of money, don't get me wrong. They do a lot of good with it too - like a lot of good. I always find it interesting how the mormon church pisses people off so easily - especially ex members. It never wronged me. I have some of my best memories from it and I think it's a good framework to follow. Who cares if people pay tithing to help fund what they believe? Hell, my gf from Florida occassionally goes to church and occasionally puts money in a jar (I don't know if it's a donation jar) that's passed around during service. I would much rather tell her good for you, babe than question why she would do that and ask where the money is going.
I love Utah. It has it quirks, but they are only bad if you look at them that way.