Stupid Pet Peeves

[Keefe]

My 4.9 year old daughter not listening.

Honest question. I send her to her room for a while—20-25 minutes generally. But I feel she like needs to be there 3 hours and miss out on going to the park with me and her siblings to get the point? Thoughts?

 

[One Brow]

My 4.9 year old daughter not listening.

Honest question. I send her to her room for a while—20-25 minutes generally. But I feel she like needs to be there 3 hours and miss out on going to the park with me and her siblings to get the point? Thoughts?

You have to know your daughter. However, when we punish too harshly, sometimes the child remembers the punishment, but doesn't really tie it to the infraction.

Also, it's always a good idea to calm down before you decide what a punishment should be.

 

[Keefe]

You have to know your daughter. However, when we punish too harshly, sometimes the child remembers the punishment, but doesn't really tie it to the infraction.

Also, it's always a good idea to calm down before you decide what a punishment should be.

I try not to call it a punishment and tell her she’s not listening or learning and that she therefore needs to go to her room to think about it. That she needs to set an example for the other two But yeah. You’re right. I don’t want my daughter growing up to hate me, get a tat when she’s 15, bang every guy in her class, and take it up the *** and like it.

 

[One Brow]

I try not to call it a punishment and tell her she’s not listening or learning and that she therefore needs to go to her room to think about it.

At age 5, she's not going to do much more thinking about it after the first 15 minutes. The attention span is limited. Even if you don't call it a punishment, she knows what it is.

But yeah. You’re right. I don’t want my daughter growing up to hate me, get a tat when she’s 15, bang every guy in her class, and take it up the *** and like it.

I'm sure you're joking, but if you really want advice on dealing with teenage girls, I've had my own success and failure at being their parent.

 

[Keefe]

No I even talk to her. I tell her it’s not a punishment. That I want you to think about it...blah, blah, blah but you’re right. It feels like one to her which makes it one.

 

[JazzGal]

I don't think any Utah towns currently have watering restrictions, do they? This is one of the wettest years on record. (Certainly restrictions have existed in some previous years.)

That hasn't changed the water restrictions on cities. These are the ones for my city (Roy):
1. There is absolutely no watering between 10 am and 6 pm allowed
2. Watering on consecutive days is not allowed
3. Watering multiple times in a given day is not allowed
4. Watering for excessive lengths of time is not allowed
5. Failing to repair leaking water lines and sprinkler heads is a violation
6. Allowing secondary water to run waste down the gutter is not allowed
7. Allowing sprinkler heads to spray streets, sidewalks, or other hard-surface areas instead of landscape is not allowed.

They haven't rescinded the rules just because we've had a decent amount of rain this year.

 

[JazzGal]

Sometime soon (or maybe over the winter, so I can use the advice at the start of the spring) I'll need to start an advice thread on lawns. I can't for the life of me figure out how to get mine looking/feeling good. I water, kill the weeds, occasionally fertilize, mow about every 1.5 weeks, and it still is crap. I'm almost to the point of ripping it out and laying new sod.

My brother is in the process of doing this very thing. His grass has been always been terrible and nothing has helped.

 

[colton]

That hasn't changed the water restrictions on cities. These are the ones for my city (Roy):
1. There is absolutely no watering between 10 am and 6 pm allowed
2. Watering on consecutive days is not allowed
3. Watering multiple times in a given day is not allowed
4. Watering for excessive lengths of time is not allowed
5. Failing to repair leaking water lines and sprinkler heads is a violation
6. Allowing secondary water to run waste down the gutter is not allowed
7. Allowing sprinkler heads to spray streets, sidewalks, or other hard-surface areas instead of landscape is not allowed.

They haven't rescinded the rules just because we've had a decent amount of rain this year.

Interesting. In my city (Orem) we don't have any current restrictions at all. Like, absolutely none of the above. However, when I google it, https://www.google.com/search?q=orem+watering+restrictions, I find that there were some restrictions in some past years.

 

[colton]

My brother is in the process of doing this very thing. His grass has been always been terrible and nothing has helped.

Hope it works for him! I don't even really know how expensive that would be, but probably more than I'm willing to pay right now.

 

[colton]

Also, it's always a good idea to calm down before you decide what a punishment should be.

This is great advice.

Another piece of advice for @Wes Mantooth -- I never found that sending them to their room worked very well. But getting down at eye level, putting my hand on their shoulder, and looking them straight in the eye while talking to them was guaranteed to get their attention and have them take me seriously.

 

[Keefe]

This is great advice.

Another piece of advice for @Wes Mantooth -- I never found that sending them to their room worked very well. But getting down at eye level, putting my hand on their shoulder, and looking them straight in the eye while talking to them was guaranteed to get their attention and have them take me seriously.

I’ve done this too. And it has seemed to work. Thanks.

 

[colton]

This is great advice.

Another piece of advice for @Wes Mantooth -- I never found that sending them to their room worked very well. But getting down at eye level, putting my hand on their shoulder, and looking them straight in the eye while talking to them was guaranteed to get their attention and have them take me seriously.

As another piece of advice that was alluded to earlier-- pick your battles. And have the punishment fit the "crime". If it's something small, have the punishment be something small... because if/when something serious happens you need to have a place to escalate to.

 

[bigb]

As another piece of advice that was alluded to earlier-- pick your battles. And have the punishment fit the "crime". If it's something small, have the punishment be something small... because if/when something serious happens you need to have a place to escalate to.

My current cure when someone comes to tattle (the favorite past time of my 9 year old) for something stupid and minor is “handle it yourself”).


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[Scat]

Does anyone have any experience with traditional grass lawn alternatives? I've been thinking about micro clover

or thyme. It is green most of the year but blooms for a few weeks in the spring

 

[LogGrad98]

Does anyone have any experience with traditional grass lawn alternatives? I've been thinking about micro clover

or thyme. It is green most of the year but blooms for a few weeks in the spring

Damn that's cool

 

[Keefe]

Sometime soon (or maybe over the winter, so I can use the advice at the start of the spring) I'll need to start an advice thread on lawns. I can't for the life of me figure out how to get mine looking/feeling good. I water, kill the weeds, occasionally fertilize, mow about every 1.5 weeks, and it still is crap. I'm almost to the point of ripping it out and laying new sod.

Cause you do it yourself? I hire TruGreen and they shoot ir full of cancer causing lawn steroids. Yes!!!

 

[RandyForRubio]

But the thing is that I'm no expert on lake fishing in Utah and most definitely not in other states. I know the lakes (and rivers) that I do fish really well but not all lakes and not all rivers. Cause they all different.
You never been to my house doe. I have great coverage with my sprinkling system (basically ever part of my yards are double or even triple covered) and I have each station watering for 45 minutes straight every 3rd night.
I lack shade which has a big effect. Some parts of my lawn grow really fast and other parts very slow. Even in my own yard there are different parts that grow differently. Lol at you thinking that you know how often everyone else's lawns need to be mowed when they differentiate so much that in fact the same lawn in the same property needs to be mowed differing frequencies.

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Please try to actually read what I say, and not add things.

I am saying if you can get away with mowing your yard every other week, you are doing something wrong with your lawn maintenance. I'm not telling you how often to mow. There is a difference there.

And yes, I realize Utah has parts considered desert. SLC and the surrounding area get more annual rainfall than where I do. I understand a touch about hot and dry weather. Shade, obviously, makes a big difference.

Now you might be watering for 45 minutes a day, but do you know how much water you're putting on total? That's what matters, not the time. It's the amount.

Without seeing a lawn, I can't say whether it's nutrient deficient, water issue, variety issue, or a combination...but I do know that if you can get away with mowing every other week, there is something wrong. Take it from a professional. Grass grows incredibly easy, and is very tough stuff. It'll put up with a lot.

 

[colton]

Cause you do it yourself? I hire TruGreen and they shoot ir full of cancer causing lawn steroids. Yes!!!

Yes, I've been attempting to do it myself. TruGreen sounds like a good idea.

 

[idestroyedthetoilet]

Hope it works for him! I don't even really know how expensive that would be, but probably more than I'm willing to pay right now.

https://www.homedepot.com/tool-truck-rental/mobile/PRO-Sod-Cutter/SC180H/index.html

 

[Keefe]

Yeah I did mine myself the first year I moved here. Never again. **** gets way too expensive. Time consuming. Probably buying low to medium grade **** and don’t even know it.

Now I love my yard.